When You've Spent Years in Your Head Wondering If Something Might Be Wrong With You
(And You're Starting to Wonder If Therapy for Men Could Actually Help)
“I don’t know who I am… and I’m afraid of what I’ll find if I look too closely.”
On the outside, things look okay. You’ve kept your life together—managed to show up for work, relationships, responsibilities. Maybe you’ve even built a version of success. But under the surface? There’s a disconnect. A quiet, constant hum of something’s not right.
You’ve been thinking about therapy for men for years. You’ve probably even researched it, maybe made it halfway through a contact form before shutting the browser. You’re not sure what you're looking for, but you’re sure something’s got to change.
Maybe you’ve told yourself:
“I should be able to figure this out.”
“Other people have it worse.”
“This is just how I am.”
But underneath all that logic is something quieter—and more honest:
“I don’t feel okay. And I don’t want to feel this way forever.”
Therapy for Men Who Are Tired of Living in Their Heads
You want more than just functioning. You want meaning. Creativity. The ability to feel your emotions without fear that they'll overwhelm or destroy you. You want to feel like your life is yours—not just a performance, not just survival.
And yet, you also carry this unspoken fear:
“What if I look inside… and there’s something wrong with me?”
This fear doesn’t make you broken. It means you’ve been carrying pain alone for a long time. Maybe since childhood. Maybe from a past you’ve done everything to outrun. Maybe from a home that never felt safe.
You're Not Broken. You’re Human.
For years, you’ve put your feelings on the backburner. You learned how to analyze instead of feel. You shut down anger because you were scared it would make you like your dad. You avoided vulnerability because it never felt safe.
And now? You’re exhausted.
You want to feel more present. You want to stop second-guessing every emotion, every decision. You want to stop wondering if you're too much or not enough. You want to know who you are—without the fear that the answer will confirm your worst thoughts about yourself.
Starting Therapy for Men Can Feel Scary—That’s a Sign You Care
Calling a therapist isn’t easy. You’re handing your most private thoughts and fears to someone you don’t know—and hoping they won’t flinch. It’s normal to feel nervous, uncertain, or afraid you’ll say too much.
But here's what I want you to know:
You don’t have to show up with a script. You just have to show up.
Therapy doesn’t have to be clinical or cold. It can be human. Relational. Real. A place where you’re not asked to justify your pain, but invited to explore it safely.
How I Help: Therapy for Men in the Bay Area
I work with men who are navigating trauma, numbness, and the deep fear that they’re fundamentally flawed. My clients are often thoughtful, insightful, and high-functioning—and also feel completely disconnected from themselves.
They come to me feeling like they’ve been carrying something alone for a long time… and they’re ready to see what life could be like with real support.
In our work together, we’ll:
Gently unpack past experiences, not just the timeline—but the emotional imprint they left.
Explore anger, grief, fear, and shame in a way that feels safe and steady.
Learn how emotions aren’t dangerous—they’re data.
Build tools for self-reflection that don’t involve overthinking or self-judgment.
You’ll begin to reconnect with the parts of yourself you’ve shut away. Not just to “heal”—but to reclaim who you are.
This Work Is Deep—But You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Yes, we’ll go deep. But we’ll go at your pace. This isn’t about forcing revelations or reliving trauma for the sake of it. It’s about creating space for the truth of your experience to emerge, gently, and with support.
We’ll hold space for:
The version of you that’s still grieving what you never got.
The version of you that’s scared of what you might find inside.
And the version of you that still believes healing is possible—even if you don’t fully believe that yet.
You Don’t Have to Keep Carrying This Alone
If any part of this message landed—if something in you whispered “this might be what I need”—I invite you to reach out.
Let’s start with a free 15-minute phone consultation to see if we’re a good fit. No pressure. No commitment. Just a conversation.